Mom is doing well. I think this is the most stressful to her as its something new for her to have to handle. Not just something new, but something that she has no grounds for understanding how to handle it. The past weeks of going with dad to various doctor appointments has been good for her as she's been able to get a hand up on what Myeloma is.
Daniel seems to most affected by it. I imagine this has a lot to do with both the fact that Daniel is farthest away from dad right now, as well as the fact that he was the first born. The first born has a bit of a special relationship with the parents as they are able to experience the parents alone. All the rest of us experience the parents as being an additional part to the family. In fact, I would say that often the younger children experience the parents almost as on offset to the friendship they experience with the other children. Needless to say, Daniel probably enjoys... a deeper relationship (if that's the correct way to say it) with my father than the rest of us do.
I haven't really herd from Andrew to know how he's doing, but I think he's handling it well.
Emily has been stressing about this a little, but remains good.
Me? I'm good. To be perfectly honest, I'm not overly affected by it one way or the other. I know that may seem callous, but the fact of the matter is that the number of my dad's days has not been decreased one bit simply because he now has cancer. A lot of people may view this news almost as if where before there was some unknown limit to my father's day that was so far off it wasn't worth considering. After all, my dad's only 55 he has another 35 years easy by modern thought. But know we consider the fact he has cancer, that limit that wasn't worth thinking about is now a much smaller number. It's become a "how many of my children will get to meet their grandfather?" or a "how much longer do I really have with dad?", "what will become of mom without dad?" All completely legitimate questions, yet all questions that make me laugh. The whole notion of letting a sickness distress you makes me laugh.
My father is just as much in the hands of God today as he was yesterday. Just because he has cancer doesn't mean God has turned His back on my dad has it? So I'm good. My dad is in the best hands possible and he'll be around the exact number of days as he always was supposed to.
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Would everybody please quit trying to bury me!!! My goal is to be the first fully recovered case from myeloma in medical history, or at least I'm going to do my best to try. Only then in the words of the Hebrew children, "But if not..." I'm almost afraid to go to the church web site and check the calendar, lest I find that my funeral has already been scheduled, and it's going to be on a day that I'm too busy to attend.
"I'm think I'm feeling better now...I'd like to take a walk."
hey, how come I'm the only one to get this response when I was the only one who was saying that just cause you have cancer doesn't mean you're gonna die any sooner than ever? I'm the one saying you've still got plenty of life left :p
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